NETWORK MARKETING LEADS TO DIVORCE!!!
I came home after my first Network Marketing business presentation all excited I manifested the vehicle to my Dreams looked into the mirror and told my self I would never quit or even think about quitting. I would persist until I succeeded…. My next obstacle was my wife I was relatively newly married and had a 1 year old son. I knew that with all my heart that I needed the support of my partner in life however, I could not even imagine the commitment that was needed to succeed. I sat with her and told her that I don\’t need her support but I would love it, I was going to do this and succeed with or without her support. She felt my commitment, my stubborness I was doing it for my DREAMS of our family. She could not say no!!! When I started to travel for business it was not easy leaving her at home with our young kids it was hard on her but I made a promise to her that I would never book a trip more than 7 days and miss any birthdays etc…. For the most part I kept that promise a couple of times due to travel schedules just was not possible. I have witnessed many a divorce in our industry particularly with top leaders and in lieu of high profile Divorces with the Gates and Bezos it is difficult at the best of times to have that balance, here are some reasons why Divorces become an end result in the industry of Network marketing 1) Leaders who had a good to great run of 6 or 7 figure income and then got in to jumping around from company and company trying to regain the income they did in that magical run/financial distress – never attaining the freedom of residual income /financial plan 2) – The 100% support was never given from the beginning and communicated 3) a Family plan of balance. 4) Values of both partners are never communicated and worked on … If you are starting in the industry or you are moving up in rank in your company becoming a 10% income earner your balance in family life will be challenged, many conflicts will come about . Most understand that nothing is more important than family however, when you are driven, when you have fallen in LOVE with your DREAM balance becomes the most difficult thing to accomplish. Suggestions – – Have a serious talk with your spouse, partner like I did share your commitment let them know it\’s important to have their support but you don\’t need it…. – Schedule family time. For example what I did is use my planner from Sunday to Sunday and scheduled my family time with my wife. This was hard to do as I thrived as a spontaneous person but it saved so many Potential conflicts… -travel set a commitment and goal never to be away from home for a certain period and never miss special family events.. Many will say you have to pay the price for success do not make your family pay the price its a simple error in judgement that will catch up to you negatively. – Have a financial plan. What we did is we got to a lifestyle we were comfortable with and invested the rest making more residual income. Many of the toys Network Marketers purchase gets them into trouble as they become losing assets. Most of the time they are purchased to show people they are successful which becomes a simple error in judgement. I saved 10% of my commissions, 10% for my Kids College , put away a percentage for taxes…. we had a 10% fund for fun as a family. Looking back the best investments I made was in the area of exotic family vacations , the countries we visited were FOOD for our marriage and family life.. – Involve your spouse/partner as much as you can even if they don\’t want to be a part of the action part of the business find ways where you can involve them. Every little thing count. – Ask your spouse/partner to write down the top 10 values they have and compare it to yours. This exercise can be a relationship blessing understanding what is important to your spouse/partner. This year my wife and I are celebrating our 33rd anniversary most of them have been in my network marketing career we know nothing else, our marriage has thrived in all ways and I attribute that to the steps I have shared above.
Who is Whispering in YOUR EAR???
Many years ago I had a defining moment in my NM career which changed everything for me. It was so clear to me, if I wanted to change personally where I was financially, my lifestyle, my relationships, I needed to do this! I stopped taking financial advice from people that were broke. I stopped taking advice from people who never build a serious residual income in 1 company for more than 5 years. I did not care if a person went to the top of 5 different companies in 10 years, I wanted to build a long term walkaway business with 1 company… I stopped getting health tips from unhealthy people. I stopped taking relationship advice from people with toxic or boring relationships and I stopped looking for spiritual guidance from people that couldn’t demonstrate to me that they were attracting what they were preaching. It sounds pretty simple doesn’t it? But take a look at how often you take advice from people who don’t walk the talk. How many times have we seen people in our industry get excited when they started their business only to quit a few days later because they spoke to their broke family member who never had any history of success in business. How many times have we seen so called leaders tell people they have found a home as part of their marketing story and a year later they found another home and then another home or that they have hit the greatest company in the world, greatest compensation plan for the umpteen time… I follow the rule that “if they don’t SHOW it, they don’t KNOW it” and I learned to stay away from these people like they had the plague particularly when I was trying to establish myself in the industry of Network Marketing. We certainly have an epidemic in the business world where people are professing that they are the experts, they have learned to brand themselves real well. I am all for branding yourself it is good marketing strategy, but keep in mind be careful who you are taking advice from. Instead, I found people who had manifested what I desired and ask them for help. These are what we call mentors. It is critical in the business world, particularly in Network Marketing to have a coach/mentor. When You surround yourself with the best you become the best. The best part of the “advice” I am giving you right now is that you can prove this to yourself! Have a super Day Sending your great blessings of Prosperity and Abundance…, Joe Garcia
Super women!!!!
Just this past Valentines weekend I was reflecting on how incredible the women in my life are. My wife Margaret, my mom, mother inlaw, sisters and business partners. I always wondered how my mother no matter how busy she was with 4 kids, she always got things done. – Women are happy jugglers. Sales requires engaging in a multitude of tasks simultaneously, playing many varying roles concurrently and having the strength, stamina and ability to keep an eye on it all. My mom, my wife Margaret, my sisters, and the women leaders I have in my Global organization, all of them can be considered Superwomen! The Superwomen designation came about because of their ability to do it all: USE TIME PRODUCTIVELY DISTRIBUTE ENERGIES EASILY ENGAGE IN A MULTITUDE OF TASKS EFFORTLESSLY KEEP A PULSE ON IT ALL EFFECTIVELY These talents make them seem invincible and unstoppable in life. Just watch a women in the course of a normal day. A women will take care of her 4 children in an inspirationally masterful way. She deals with problems and crying and complaining while motivating them to get their colouring books and listen to music and do their homework, like a conductor guides a symphony. She will do all this while she offers you a seat, handing you a cup of coffee while directing you to the website of the product she is taking to you about. The phone will ring, she will excuse herself while she answers the phone, watching her children play, smiles at you and answers the callers questions and takes there product order, at the same time that she is pulling the baby out of the plant and handing you some more information that you wanted to see. Have you ever seen those really advanced jugglers perform? They can keep a banana, a chair, a stick of gum, a bowling ball and a flaming sword all going at the same time with incredible ease. I equate that type of juggling (juggling things of different natures) with what is required in network marketing. You see, being a successful Global entrepreneur will require juggling not only many different people, but many different people in many different aspects of the sales process. A sale normally consists of a series of steps, and chances are you will not be on the same step with every prospect at the same time. First you must understand the basic elements of the sales process PROSPECTING – All leaders in the great industry of Network Marketing develop a proficiency in prospecting. This involves networking, nurturing referrals, keeping up with past leads and finding creative ways to broaden your prospect base………test, test, test your different approaches to lead generating. CREATING A RELATIONSHIP – making yourself the kind of person whom your organization wants to be associated with. This is more than product knowledge, it involves conveying the right image, having the ability to build a rapport and trust, and using the communication and people skills necessary to create a bond. ASSESSING YOUR POTENTIAL DISTRIBUTOR AND UNCOVERING NEEDS -Trying to sign a new distributor up who has no belief or need for or in your business will prove to be very frustrating at the least. Match your opportunity to there needs, wants and desires, assessing their interest levels and feelings will require a superior ability to ask, listen and read beyond words. HANDLING OBJECTIONS -Objections are a vary real part of the recruiting process. Nine out of ten, the raising of an objection actually demonstrates interest in what you are presenting. Therefore, objections should be music to your ears, as involved people are interested people. CLOSING Closing or signing a new distributor up is a learned skill. You reach this point only by properly executing the other steps along the way. Then it takes your ability to sum it up, tie it all together, create the desire and ask for the sale.(3 way calls with your upline is critical in closing) FOLLOW THROUGH – Since a lot of times we do not accomplish signing up our new distributor on the first time, follow through involves not only the act of reconnecting with the prospects, but it demands knowing how to prime, prepare and program the prospect for another encounter with you Next you must develop a time management system to be effective, not just efficient like the superwomen above. By observing these special Super Women you can definitely start incorporating these successful traits in your business and life. How do you eat an elephant – one bite at a time. Success is doing the simple disciplines over time not over night! God Bless, Your friend business partner Joe Garcia
Making 2013 your BEST YEAR EVER!!!
This is one of my older most popular posts and I believe life changing. All the best in 2013… Making 2013 your best year ever I put a lot thought and effort on my last post of 2012, I hope you know it is coming from a place deep down in my soul!!! It is my longest blog post but entirely worth the read, I guarantee you. Enjoy!! How do I make 2013 my best year ever? Around this time of year I am consistently getting this question. To me the question is really easy to answer but probably not what you expected. To make 2013 you need to change your philosophy, change your Paradigm. “As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.” James Allen began his book with that aphorism more than eighty years ago. As a student of the power of thought – I believe the book is more relevant today, than it was when it was first written. In my first number of years in this industry, I used to think the most important things to teach my people were prospecting and training strategies. But I couldn’t understand why after they learned them, they didn’t do something more with them. Then I came to realize that there were all sorts of mental blocks holding them back. Fear of failure, low self esteem, fear of rejection, feelings of unworthiness, and the biggest one–fear of success. I came to understand that to build a large growing network, it was critical to include a personal development program in the equation. So now, I work on helping people discover and put into action their innate personal power. This is what has the potential to transform your business and life. Thus the reason I launched www.steamteam.ca It’s pleasing to your ego to assume your group is not growing because of outside factors and other circumstances. It’s very convenient to blame your lack of progress on your company’s compensation plan, the price of the products, timing, the area you live and a host of other external factors. But the truth is, you are reaping the results of your thoughts. Your suffering is the result of your negative, greedy or lazy thoughts, just as the blessings in your life are the results of your positive, kind and loving thoughts. This is an immutable, unshakable universal law… You cannot change your thoughts without changing your life. In either direction. Fortunately, you can pick the direction. You follow the thoughts you allow yourself to be dominated with. Program your mind with Jerry Springer and reality TV and you’re certain to lead a life of victim-hood, lack and limitation. Program your mind with the fertile stuff of “As a Man Thinketh,” “The Magic of Thinking Big,” and “Think and Grow Rich,” “Science of Getting Rich” all which can be downloaded for free on www.steamteam.ca and you’ll be walking the highway of strong and high endeavor. Just as planting an acorn will grow an oak tree, planting positive thoughts into your subconscious mind will grow you a Great business and a life, of wonder, harmony, happiness and success. It is common for people to think that they will attract what they want. Unfortunately, this is not true. You actually attract what you ARE. And of course, you are what you think about. The whims, desires and even strong passions you have can quite easily be thwarted by the thoughts you have about them. Last month, I ran into a friend who works as a clerk on the graveyard shift. After our conversation I suggested He visited my training site site. I suggested he read the books on the site along with watching some of our webinar training’s. After devouring the site, he mentioned that he was trying to create a vision for the future as I suggested – but all he could see was cracked mirrors. He asked me what I thought would cause that. I replied that the likely causes were watching too much TV (he nodded), reading the daily newspaper instead of positive books (he nodded again), hanging around with negative people (now he’s nodding furiously), or all three. ‘Busted,’ he says. Like a lot of people I know, he wants a better life, and often asks me for advice on how to get it. I used to give these people copies of “As a Man Thinketh” and suggest they read it. I discovered they never found the time. Then I switched to giving them the name, and suggesting they buy it themselves. Most never get it. They spend so much time in thoughts of negativity – being a victim – they don’t release those thoughts and replace them with thoughts of self-improvement. It’s a chicken or egg thing. They don’t buy the book because they don’t have positive thoughts. They don’t have positive thoughts, because they won’t read the book. You will find a lot of parallels in your business. You need to believe you’ll be successful or you won’t be. But you have to believe it before it happens. Most people fail because they can’t keep this positive frame of mind until they actually manifest success. They start out believing it, or at least thinking they do. Then one of their people drops out, a presentation goes bad, or their first guests never show up to the presentation. They don’t realize it then, but this is the absolute turning point of their career… They will see these things as a challenge to be overcome – or an insurmountable obstacle and quit. If they accept it as a challenge, they build character and persevere. Until they get a little success. Which gives them some more positive thoughts – that build their belief – that lead them to their next success – which builds their belief stronger. They are on a win/succeed cycle. If they view the situation as an insurmountable obstacle, subconsciously they will look for validation to fail. The economy is